I recently heard from high council that the moment we are in deserves our best. This particular expression has struck a chord in me. It’s gotten my wheels turning. The word ” deserve” sort of gnaws at the back of my mind…what is it that this moment expects from me? What exactly IS my best? And what if my best isn’t good enough? What if that which I am able to give the moment leaves it with much to be desired? And when referring to the moment…is it the actual moment, like this very second, right now, that is so deserved? Or, is “the moment” intended to convey a particular situation, or point in time that in fact encompasses a vast quantity of moments?
I’ve pondered these questions over the past few weeks, and here’s what I’ve come up with. When it comes down to it, the moment, this moment, right now, is all we have. Nothing outside of this moment is real. To be concerned with anything other than the now, is to deny ourselves from living fully, wholeheartedly, and authentically. Our best, is to give right now all the love and attention we possess. Offering it instead to what doesn’t exist is simply energy (and moments) wasted. The best we can give our moments is our true authentic self, and that will always be enough. When we put our focus on what has already come to pass or what is yet to be we are doing a great injustice to the present moment and to ourselves.
We must not deny the significance of the past. The past is extremely important. It is where we find our lessons, and from which we grow. The thing to remember about the past is not to get stuck in it. We mustn’t hold on. Too often people get caught up, they become preoccupied with what is already said and done, their hearts and minds fill with regret, anger, or bitterness. If we live in the past our capacity for growth and change is deeply limited. The objective is to appreciate the past for its lessons, to attain forgiveness for ourselves and others, and then to let it go, to grow and to move forward. I will reiterate the noteworthiness of edification in regard to the past. The lessons we take from the past should act as a guide, revealing to us that which does or does not lead us down the path to happiness, and thus influencing our decisions. When we don’t pay attention to the lessons, we end up having to take the class over again. When you do what you have always done, you will yield what you have always received.
As a dreamer, I find I sometimes consciously have to bring myself back to the present moment. I’m extremely susceptible to getting lost in my mind. It’s easy to get caught up in the “what if’s” and the “one day’s”. It’s easy to imagine the greener grass on the other side, if we can just get through today tomorrow will be better. But in reality, there is no other side, there is no tomorrow. Tomorrow is an illusion. Perhaps if we can put all of that energy we have saved up for tomorrow into our present moment, our today’s will begin to be as good as the tomorrow’s we imagine. To say we shouldn’t live in the future is not to say that we shouldn’t have intentions, or aspirations, or dreams. On the contrary, I believe that our future is shaped by our intentions. I believe that our world is what we make it to be. I say dream big. But just as we should learn from the past and then let it go, we should strive to find the same separation in regard to the future. We should embrace our dreams, focus on our goals, and realize our intentions… the key is not to become attached to the outcome. When we attach ourselves to a particular outcome, this is when anxiety, worry and stress materialize. The same holds true when we become attached to people, or to the opinions of others. Attachment to an outcome=expectation=disappointment. When we are so worried about what’s going on outside of the present moment, before we know it our moments will have all passed, we having spent them entertaining ghosts and fantasies.
I find myself the happiest, feeling most alive, when I am free to fully experience the moment I am in. And at the same time I find myself most ill at ease when preoccupied by that which others may be experiencing, when worrying about the future, or when dwelling on moments which have already passed. I am filled with apprehension and insecurity when I am not able to fully experience the now because I’m overly concerned with expectations, outcomes, and other peoples reactions and interpretations. Living in the moment is what works for me. Because inevitably (and thankfully), everything changes.
This is your story and you are the author. Each new moment is a new beginning, a chance to make your right now everything you want it to be. Don’t miss out on your moments. They are all you have. And they deserve your best.